Alright, this post needs to be written. The topic is constantly in my face and I cannot skirt around the subject anymore. Let me start out by saying never have I/never will I be reading or watching any part of the 50 Shades of Grey series.
Okay, that being said, I have watched the trailer in order to get a better understanding on what the concept of the book/movie is about. That being said, I was disgusted by the entire thing.
From my understanding 50 Shades of Grey is about a very rich CEO who meets a journalist. The journalist is a plain-jane girl (just like every girl thinks she is). She becomes utterly captivated by him, and he knows quite well that he can take advantage of her. Basically it’s an adult/porn version of Twilight.
Now, I know I’m literally judging a book by it’s cover/judging a movie by it’s trailer which I HATE doing, but there’s no way you could pay me to watch that movie. I will not subject myself to be overcome by the devil who knows every woman’s weaknesses. That’s a setup for sin and I know better than that.
50 Shades of Grey is, in my opinion, written by a woman who desperately needs God to fulfill some needs in her life as she has outlined that in her book. We see all the downfalls that every woman deals with:
- Feeling worthless
- Feeling unimportant
- Feeling overworked
- Feeling unappreciated
- Feeling innocent and naive
- Feeling the need to submit to another
- Feeling intimidated by the world around us
- Feeling curious
All of these downfalls were addressed by 50 Shades of Grey’s author E. L. James. Although she took a sinful route of addressing these topics.
Mr. Christian (ironic) Grey is able to address all of these needs for Ms. Ana. He is:
- Interested in her
- Intrigued by her
- He lavishes on her
- He notices her from the start
- He is knowledgeable and knows that she is not.
- He is controlling
- He is protective
- He is mysterious
All of these things fulfill Ana’s needs in the most unhealthy way. In what he is doing he is pulling her in, taking her innocence and all of the things that are beautiful about Ana and twisting them for his own sick games. He takes her virtue, steals her time and gives her false promises while he abuses her sexually and emotionally. He is not romantically in love with her, he is using her as his sex slave.
Now let’s get something straight, do women have downfalls? Yes. Do men have downfalls? Yes. But fulfilling them in a sinful manner is not the proper way to deal with them. Many of the needs that Ana has in this book/series/movie/whatever could easily have been met when being fulfilled by the Lord, the rest being met when meeting a husband, who loves her. And is not just abusing her for a sex slave.
Ok, past the emotional part of this all, you get it, needs should not be filled in a sinful manner. We have a whole other problem on our hands. This piece of literature is literally pornographic literature. It was created for the intents and purposes to draw women in, captivate and arouse them into fantasies that are unattainable and immoral. Reviews of this book even say
Erotic, amusing, and deeply moving, the Fifty Shades Trilogy is a tale that will obsess you, possess you, and stay with you forever. (source)
I’m sorry, but if a book’s reviews say things like “obsess”, “possess”, and erotic. I’m most likely going to stay away from reading it.
People not only have read these books and are now watching the movie, but they are openly enjoying it and encouraging it in today’s society. They are encouraging pornographic literature. Can you believe this?! What kind of sick and twisted world do we live in that encourages people to bend to their sinful nature so willingly? It is sold on the front shelves of bookstores, put in window displays in malls, shared between neighbors, friends and sisters. It is talked about in the workplace, and openly in public. People are constantly reading it and there’s not one adult in America who doesn’t at least know that it exists. I feel surrounded by it. I feel as though I can’t get away from it. And yes, I feel tempted to read it.
Just see the movie, just read the first book. The temptation is everywhere. I hear the commercial on Spotify every time I listen to my worship music, and sometimes, I think to myself, “What’s so harmful about a book?” But there is so much sin in that book, I swear it overflows and affects anyone who looks at it.
What woman doesn’t want an overprotective man who will fight for her, and love her in the most intimate ways? Most women I know do. But we must not be tempted by the devil’s minions. To feel want and to have needs is perfectly normal, but to fulfill them in this way is so hurtful to us.
Ladies, please understand your worth. You are worth so much more than you think. You do not need to stoop to the level of E.L. James and fantasize about your needs being met; but instead reach out to the Lord and ask for them to be met. Pray for yourself and those around you who are tempted by literature and other means of porn and sexual sin. It is a true struggle for many people but it doesn’t have to be. Encourage one another by talking about it. Talk to your spouse about your struggles with your weaknesses, let him know how he can help fulfill those needs in a righteous way. Talk to your pastors about being able to fulfill these needs in a righteous way so that you are honoring God and yourself.
We do not have to tolerate this porn and sexual sin in our society. By reading, watching, or buying any of the products by E.L. James you are encouraging the tolerance of sexual sin in society, which is exactly why I’m not reading 50 Shades of Grey…and why you shouldn’t either.
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