Nothing says “I love you” like giving someone your full attention. If your husband craves time spent with you, I suggest you keep reading this post for ideas that would make an excellent Valentine’s gift, but really work any time of the year.
What is it about time that sends people into a tizzy? Either they have too much time and boredom sets in, or they have too little and find themselves stressed. In a perfect world, we would have time to do all that we need to do, and some extra time for fun activities, right? For many women, their husbands are gone all day, and when they return home all that anyone wants to do is eat dinner, and probably watch Tv until bedtime. And who can blame them, really? I mean, homemakers are BUSY!
We may sacrifice some things in order to be productive at home (care for ourselves, time spent doing a hobby we enjoy, visits with friends, etc) but spending quality time with our husband’s should NOT be one of the things we go without.
Quality time is not just eating dinner in front of the TV, or using your computers at the same time. It’s giving your husband your full attention, and letting him know that you love him by doing so. Most men won’t tell their wives “I wish we spent more time together”, so it’s up to us to make an effort, especially if quality time is his love language. One thing I learned early on in my marriage was that by not speaking my husband’s love language, he felt like I was rejecting him and was uninterested! Well, after hearing that I made it a priority to make him a priority. Here are some ideas for speaking your husband’s love language of quality time:
1 | Do your chores and housework before he gets home (if possible):
If you are a full time homemaker, and your husband works outside the home, this should be easy for you. If your husband does not work, or works from home, you can set aside a certain amount of time daily for chores so that you have more uninterrupted time with him (remember our posts on a creating a homemaking routine or schedule? Now is a good time to refresh yourself!). Doing as much housework while your husband is gone ensures there is less to do when he is home, so that you are able to dedicate time to just him.
2 | Eat meals at the table instead of in front of the TV:
Be honest, how often do you actually sit at your kitchen or dining table for meals? I LOVE doing this with my husband because it gives us time to catch up and share stories from our days. If your husband wants to spend more time together, this is a great way to do so.
3 | Engage him in conversation:
Some of you may not be able to share meals with your husband for various reasons, but you can still find time to chat. Ask him his day was, what he did at work/school, if he saw anything interesting on his commute home (my husband drives on back roads to get home and is always seeing some kind of wildlife), what he thought of the sermon at church, etc. You could even delve deeper and ask where he sees himself in five years, what his dream vacation would be, what his favourite childhood memory is, etc. The point here is to make sure he knows you care by taking the time to give him your total attention as you talk. This means no scrolling Facebook on your phone, no prepping dinner, no playing with the dog, or whatever else might distract you.
4 | Plan a fun date:
Spend an evening doing something HE enjoys, be it a round of mini golf, or a nice meal out. I’d even say that going to a movie counts as quality time, if that is something you enjoy. My husband and I have enjoyed going to the movies during the whole course of our relationship, so seeing one now reminds us of when we were first dating. If you choose this as a date night, be sure to give your husband the choice of movie!
5 | Get involved in one of his hobbies:
Does your husband like fishing but you are not a fan? Go along with him anyways but bring a book to read (my husband prefers not to talk while fishing but enjoys my company). Does he enjoy collecting a certain item? Go with him when he purchases more, or ask him questions about the items in the collection. Even if you think his hobbies or interests are a little boring, taking time to share them with him will make your husband happy.
Spending quality time with your husband does not have to be difficult and it should not be a chore. It is something we should want to do, and enjoy doing!
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