Many people have questioned, berated, and hassled me about how I “don’t contribute to my home”. The definition of not contributing to my home, in their eyes, is by not working outside of the home. While many mothers and wives are able to work outside the home and “keep up” with the duties of the home, we have to ask ourselves if they are really able to put their families first.
Back in August, my husband and I agreed for me to start a job just to help with a few bills. I wasn’t in full agreement with my husband at the time, but I was obedient and let him lead. After starting the job, I didn’t complain or bother my husband with my work woes, and I attempted to put a smile on my face for the first two weeks. But let’s be honest, I was miserable. Not even working at Dunkin’ Donuts had made me this miserable. By week three, I came home sobbing and my husband finally got the hint. Not only was my new job putting stress on our marriage by giving us little or no time to see each other everyday, but it put even more stress on us because there was really no food being cooked as I had no time, the house wasn’t being kept up, and neither of us were happy.
Just one month into my job, I gave my two weeks. Luckily my boss was very understanding. It’s was an easy transition, and I was able to ease back into my household chores with no problems. Being back in the role that God intended for me to be in felt so good! I felt relieved that once again my purpose was fulfilled. After returning home I was able to return to running my blog and virtual assistant business (which I have since abandoned and gone on to being an author). Still being able to contribute to my family financially, yet being able to meet their needs first. Not all women are meant to work away from home, there’s stay at home wives, work at home wives, and wives who help support their families.
Within one week of being home I had gotten so much done! I started our process to a minimal lifestyle. (Read my thoughts on simple living here.) I was able to clean out our closets and get rid of a ton of junk (literally). It feels great to know that even though I’m currently not making a lot of money, that I’m saving my family a good chunk of change!
Being able to be home is a blessing and it is a choice. My top 5 reasons for being a stay at home wife are as follows:
- Time to serve the Lord by serving my family first.
- Having more time with my husband (and hopefully future children).
- Finding pleasure in life. (Who doesn’t want that?)
- Knowing that I am fulfilling the purpose that the Lord has set for my life.
- Being able to prepare and plan for my home to always be full of food, supplies and love.
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