Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. -Proverbs 14:1
At 24 years old, being a wise woman wouldn’t be on many girls’ minds, but for me, it is always on the forefront of my mind. From balancing the finances, to making sure we are putting the right things in our home. Because I know that God has called women, especially married women, to be wise keepers of their homes. And despite what culture says now, not too long ago, young women were getting married in their teens and becoming wise keepers of their homes. Nowadays, women are hitting their thirties and forties and are still unmarried, and unwise with their time and finances. It’s completely culturally acceptable.
But it’s up to the women of God to swim against the current and do His bidding. So, for us women of the Lord, it’s important to Him to be wise keepers of the home.
But how can we do that?
There are many aspects to running a home, just as there are many aspects to being a wise woman. From juggling finances, to educating children in schooling and in the ways of the Lord, to meeting the needs of your husband, and so much more. And in every area of your home, there is always something to learn. From spending and saving wisely, to parenting, cooking, preserving, gardening, tips and tricks to clean more efficiently, tips on marriage and more. We as a species are constantly learning, growing and craving information. So, even as a homemaker, it’s good to keep your mind sharp, and your bookshelf full.
Let’s talk about some practical steps you can take this month to becoming a more wise woman. (This list is a bit longer than usual, but stick with me, it’s worth it!)
1 | Read Your Bible
Okay, I know this one is kind of a “duh” factor, but truly! Sometimes when we crave to learn we turn anywhere but the Bible. We think it may just be a good resource for our spirits, but in reality, the Bible has laid out so many good examples to live our lives, and we don’t even realize it!
For the Lord giveth wisdom: out of his mouth cometh knowledge and understanding. -Proverbs 2:6
So when you are beginning to seek wisdom, be sure to start by seeking Him, and His wisdom first. And if you need help discerning, I would ask your husband first, and if he doesn’t have the answer, ask your pastor. And if they don’t know, there are lots of good resources out there.
2 | Start with the important things first.
Look around your home and see what needs to be addressed. Whether it’s your finances that are out of order, or your homeschool routine or your pantry. Find what needs to be addressed first and make a list in order. For us, our finances needed to be addressed and then our pantry and storage. So I started with just that. Now that our finances are fixed I have moved onto learning about using whole, organic foods, growing my own foods, canning and storage. (And how to save when buying said foods.) Now, that doesn’t mean that I have stopped learning about finances all together, but it’s not at the forefront of my mind. I still listen to Money Wise on our local radio network every afternoon and learn a ton.
If you’re having issues on deciding what to do first, ask your husband what his concerns are. He may have different concerns than you, but be sure to make the time for him to answer. Whether you ask him Monday, and get an answer Friday, or just take time in a family meeting to ask, make sure he knows that this is an important topic to you.
3 | Find reliable, biblical resources
Like the Money Wise podcast, it’s important to find reliable, biblical resources that you can use to educate yourself. One of the biggest disservices you can do to yourself and family is taking your information from false teachings. Use the discernment from the Holy Spirit, and the wisdom of yourself and husband to find reliable resources.
In this world of politics and opinions, it can be very hard to find a good resource, because everything has a bad review lately, everyone has a nasty opinion. Use your gut, and follow what you think is right. (And I can say with 100% certainty, that the Bible is the best resource you will find!)
4 | Learn from those around you
One of the best resources you can find is the older women around you.
The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things; that they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children, to be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed. -Titus 2:3-5
Whether there are older women in your church who can teach you certain skills you need as a homemaker, wife and mother, or a woman in your community. Reaching out to the women around you can be an incredible resource, and a great source of companionship.
Another idea, that is one plus of this day and age, is to reach out to older women via internet. (Please note, I suggest making friends very carefully and warily on the internet, there are a lot of creepers out there.) There are plenty of Facebook groups that have only Christian women that are heavily screened, and they are filled with good advice. Just search for the topic you’re looking for in the groups feature and enjoy!
5 | Learn about what you love
While it’s good to learn about your everyday tasks, it’s also important to keep your interest up. If you’re not interested in what you are doing, you won’t have a passion or drive to do so. Be sure to indulge in your interests by learning about them! (For me, I enjoy learning about creationism and dinosaurs! If I were a boy, I would have for sure been a creationism paleontologist!)
Learning, age and wisdom go hand in hand, and as you grow you will continue to become a great woman of God as you continue on your journey with Him. If you are having trouble delving into His word, be sure to stop by A Pinch of Faith on Facbeook each day as we share a Bible verse about this month’s character quality. We want to uplift, encourage and educate you on His word!